DIY Designer Change

DIY Designer Positioning

This week, I’m presenting something a little different.
Generally, my slant on everything about life takes an holistic bias. I like working on everything from the inside out. I do get practical in my application too, but not necessarily in the typical linear way. I’m not primarily a left brain thinker. I desire very much for balance in my overall thinking processes, and for some of them, I get the assistance of friends and advisors I know have an excellent grip on those things that I’m not so adept in, so I can glean from their viewpoint.

So, this week, I’m taking more of a business tack on some of my DIY designer ideas and looking at ways we can shape our ‘package’ to position ourselves authentically and desirably in the market place. And to help me do that, I have a great friend and business colleague, Jason Spurlock joining me for my Blog Talk Radio Show May 11. http://blogtalkradio.com/lisa-shah

What we’re going to be looking at is how we can take some of the ‘designer’ ideas and bring them into a place of action. Everyone’s action can be different and motivation unique, but ultimately there are aspects of the process that remain consistent throughout, and via which most, if not all, goals are achieved.

AS Jason mentioned to me, Tony (Anthony) Robbins, the well known personal development guru, talks about a three prong process. These spearheads are :
1. Focus
2. Physiology
3. Language

Focus

Under this heading, I want to look at my usual starting place...”designer alignment”. This seems be irrevocably and always the starting place for any venture.
Set your sights on what and where you want to be.

Consider where you find yourself today and what the mirrors in your life are presenting to you. How are they revealing what needs to be adjusted for you to reach the desired outcome? How is this showing up in circumstances and what struggles or conflicts is it presenting?

Now, focus yourself again on the person you feel you will become in the process of achieving your goal. How do you look as the person who is successful in this venture? What is your dominant attitude and vibe? How do you handle crisis? Why do people turn to you? What are you giving to them?

How do you look? Where do you present yourself...what circles? Corporate, Retail, Community, etc. How do you speak? What manner of things do you say to yourself of yourself? How do you think of other people? How is your day laid out?

Set these things in your mind as your magnetic NORTH, like the compass you will work to, and attract to you. Regularly, refer to your compass, and do what you can to strengthen its drawing power, by feeding your focus well. Learn to think and focus like someone who is where you wish to be.

Physiology

One of the ways you can apply this, is studying the ways these people are walking their focus out. Even if they differ in what they do, the elements of their success will be relevant. What is their posture and stance, their demeanour and dominant presence? How is this reflected in the way they literally walk, talk, dress and relate.

Our physical bodies are a direct reflection of our self opinion. What do you feel yours says about you? What about those of whom you think well...how is the physiology adding to that? With those that don’t summon that respect from you...how does THEIR posture give away their opinion of themselves.

In the same way that donning a mask and wearing a costume make it easier for us to assume a different role or character, so, physicalizing the elements that a successful person walks in will actually begin to send those signals through your physical muscle memory. Every cell of your being is intelligent. You are disrupting old habits of being, and SUPPORTED by the mental shift in focus will begin to create new sets of habits to go with that mind set change, helping to establish the two as a powerful set of triggers.

Assuming a physical state has attached emotional conditions and can reveal conflicting belief issues, too. EG If a person of self worth stands erect and healthfully proud, he could feel arrogant. This could become a hindrance to the process, and with techniques like good old EFT, this resistance can be worked through.

Language

Finally, the third of the three prongs is language. As with the physiology, language reveals an enormous amount about where a person really stands in relation to a healthy self image, and it shows not only in their self talk, but also in their talk and attitudes toward others.
It’s an inescapable fact, that as we are toward others, is actually how we are to ourselves, if not overtly, then most definitely covertly. In other words, if we are judgmental and critical of others, we will always feel the associated affects of being judged (unacceptability) and being found deficient (unworthiness). Likewise, as the adage, “love thy neighbour as thyself” implies, the two are relative.

So...what does your language reveal about your thinking? Consider when you hear yourself use words like ‘should’, ‘never’ and ‘always’. How much of your conversation with others, or playing in your head is about circumstances? How is what you hear coming out of your mouth different to that which you hear come from those who are where you want to be?
Build awareness, of yourself and the company you keep. What is their language like and what does it reveal? “Out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks”. Just like your physiology, your language will work for or against you. As you reset your focus and your stature, re-educate your tongue as well. Implementing change by choice, SUPPORTED by the other areas, will work wonders.

Develop an integrity with your words. Spend your words on what counts. Your focus will shift if your tongue strays. Your language will help to align you, and as you speak those things you mean and want and believe in passionately, will draw your emotions up to a higher level too.
It will get easier for all these things to work together.

The Balance of Power

So...bring some balance. The bizarre thing is that consciously we determine to control through our will, but it is our subconscious that rules the outcome. When we work with the two in harmony, identifying and removing the resistance, there can be an harmonious free flow between the two and productivity is vastly improved.

Be sure to listen into the show next week, when Jason and I look at how using these principles can help to design a distinct and strong position, both within ourselves as creative individuals, and in the market place as effective contributors to lives of others.

http://blogtalkradio.com/lisa-shah

DIY Designer Change

DIY Designer Change.
Change.
Hmmm...for some it’s not only a negative word, it’s a terrifying prospect. Why is that?
Everything about life is in a constant of flux, so how is it we can become so rigid? I our early years, everything single thing we learn comes to us via a process of desire and discovery, then experimentation and mastery. There was no shame when we didn’t roll over the first time, or successfully take five steps without falling.
Nor was there any judgment! Only encouragement and cheers at our wanting to try, and a confidence that we would eventually accomplish that which we were endeavouring to achieve.
Somewhere along the line, we trading in our spirit of adventure and self confidence, selling out to the more generally accepted notion that we ‘can’t’. The blissful condition of being judgement free dissipated and in its place a need to hide and not venture out where we’ve not gone before-coz, what if we fail?
This week, I’d like to look at the way Change comes into my life, and how I determined how I would have it play out.
Incremental Steps
Change can strike in many ways. A slow progressive evolving, a dramatic shift in circumstances, an opportunity that grows out of synchronistic meeting or even a line by line action plan.
When considering ‘incremental’ change, I want to see steady and consistent growth without extremes or obsession. A type of approach to life, if you will, that will always hold me in good stead. I love balance and harmony in all areas of my life, with rich and recognisable growth, but free of stress or pressure...just like when I was little.
I used to beg God for three times the intensity, to have a learning process over with three times as fast, and I think I had that for a long time! Lol but there are certain other necessary characteristics that develop over time THROUGH consistent application that takes longer to perfect. This is the one place I really love TIME. As long as any fear is being dealt with in a healthy way, simply spending TIME doing something will develop confidence and familiarity.
In giving yourself goals of change think of this: One step forward is all you need to take. Just ONE. Do this regularly, this small amount every day and change will eventuate.
As an example, think of a child’s growing feet. I have five kids and I know when I shopped for ten pairs of shoes at the outset of each new school year, I looked for a shoe that fit well enough for my child to walk comfortably, but yet, have room to grow. Every mother knows this!
When you want to step into BIGGER BOOTS, this is what you do.
A lot of our lives can, and is, lived like this. This is a very easy approach to change, and if we practice life this way, the sizes between shoes can get bigger, and we will get bolder and more confident to tackle larger ‘risks’.
When a person stops dealing with life’s little changes this way...often a “Quantum Shift” will come and shake life TO THE CORE.
This may feel uninvited and most certainly unwanted, but believe me, there is a part of you that wants nothing more than to blossom into fullness. The spiritual essence is the part of you that will subject the ‘ego’ to what’s necessary to satisfy this.
Sadly, people can go their entire lives, never recognising these opportunities, and die, having only tasted their true passions in secret, unfulfilled yearning.
What single thing would you like to begin to incrementally change in your life? How will you/your life look with that change fully established?
Quantum Shifts
If you’re familiar with any of my personal history, you may know that I had some very severe environmental shifts that scattered family members and geographically brought big change to me as well.
On the one hand this change was exactly what I wanted, but on the other, it brought a heavy toll to my heart, as it meant not being with many of the people I loved most dearly. Even though this brought some difficult situations, like many years of nightmares, and heart ache, there were many aspects of my new life that I could easily enjoy.
As children, we tend to do this much more readily-lose ourselves in the moment. We find and focus on those things that make us feel good. This was an instinct in me from as far back as I can remember, and I’ve never let it go. Feeling good has always been the better option for me and I learnt through MANY situations how to do that, from the INSIDE OUT.
This traumatic turn of events was the deliverance I wanted from some unpleasant elements of my young life, and I can see how it was the result of my own desire and creation. Looking back now, the hardest part I see in it, was the fact that I was able to create new levels of freedom , but couldn’t make anyone else want them. And for many decades, I accepted the guilt some family members put on me for finding peace when they remained in turmoil.
Often, I’ve been accused of NOT CARING because I have chosen to move forward with change instead of resisting it. This is hard to take from people you love-but move forward anyway, coz you staying miserable won’t help anyone.
This is an important part of your growth and change: You cannot create in someone else’s experience
The change that you may view as powerfully and positively potent for another could spell total disaster-all because of the way they view change.
I have seen myself generate circumstances in my life that ‘force’ me to address things I was having trouble making a decision to deal with. Whilst others felt bad for me, I knew I was getting the compelling I needed to commit myself to the change I wanted. How could I complain?
This is principle behind hiring a coach too, giving yourself an accountability partner to get you past where you keep getting stuck. Who knows, lol, maybe hiring a coach will even avert more harsh alternatives!  That has certainly been my thinking when hiring the service of a book keeper/virtual assistant to walk me through things I needed to know to get myself organised ( for bigger business shoes!), and also a business advisor to help me see the practical logistics that my right brain orientation isn’t ‘all up’ with, since I’m new to business on that level.
Without them, I wouldn’t even feel ready to BEGIN to receive any substantial business...my shoes weren’t big enough!
I do confess though, I wear lots of different ‘hats’ as well as ‘shoes’...and every hat requires another learning curve-A seemingly never ending, ongoing, learning curve. I haven’t had a chance to wear ANY of my shoes out because my desire to be living my dream life is taking me through some quantum growth spurts!
It can be exhausting to feel such stretching and growing all the time, but it’s also exhilarating and you sure know you’re alive, and best of all—you get to LIVE YOUR DREAMS, one intentional Designer moment at a time. :-)
Think about the area you’d like some change in, how can you give yourself some ’structure’ to encourage you along the path. Perhaps join a spiritual network, like http://jasonsnetwork.com or http://boundlessliving.ning.com -you’ll find me on both. Or like a friend of mine on Facebook, who gave herself a challenge and set up her own daily accountability blog. There’s LOTS of ways to do this-countless, in fact. Which will you choose??
By far...the best way to tackle change is make it a game!
Making it FUN
When I get an unexpected twist, I have several possible responses. How/why did I create this?
If I don’t feel any sort of negative affirmation like “I KNEW this would happen!”, but rather feel , aligned, I look at it as being the result of my “This, or something better clause”. That is to say, when I ask the Universe for something I think I want, I add the disclaimer of “this or something even better”, because I readily concede the Intelligence in All–That-Is, knows WAY better than I, how to satisfy my desire.
So, if I put ‘disruption’ under that disclaimer label, I cannot help but get excited! I’m not kidding! Or exaggerating. I’ve learnt to love and embrace change so much, that ‘ending’ actually means “new beginning’ to me, and ‘death’ means ‘transformed’, unexpected change, means ‘adventure’!
I immediately start thinking of how I’ll tell it as a story, or record it in a little Artbook, perhaps even a song. I bring in an element of Creative fun that instantly shifts my focus and opens the door to FUN! I might imagine myself doing an interview (common practice since I was very young! Lol)
Change is so much more appealing when it’s FUN!
Where can you, right now, begin to make some element of change that could be a fun outlet for you, connected with the area in which you want to evolve? (I’m good at ideas and for helping you to generate your own)

More About Change.
The previous content has been about positive aspects of change and response to it. There is the element of dealing with the ‘can of worms’ that are unleashed that must be sorted one way or another. Mostly, we want them out of the way, so we can stay aligned to our desired outcome, which we’re not even always sure of in times of deep transition.
I know I spent three years in limbo when my husband and I separated, not really able to cope with the notion of divorce, OR staying married. He and I progressed slowly through degrees of separation, incremental change, that seemed the better way for all five kids too. When I dealt with the reasons why (mostly the shame of feeling like a failure and being judged). But I know others who simply Cut it off and moved on...they went for the ‘intense’ version! Lol the underlying issues still need addressing though and we each decide which brand of “is-shoes” we choose to grow into and through.
There’s so much more to cover with change, such as how we deal with the strong reactions that can even debilitate us in the face of change, immobilizing our progress through fear. Other issues can arise from our habitual responses to triggers, and the problem becomes how can avert that pattern and bring the change I want, and allow it to flow?
My life afforded me the opportunity to become something of a ‘shapeshifter’. As a result, I love to help people transition change in their own lives. If you think I can help you, simply contact me on lisa@lisashahescape.com and visit http://lisashahescape.com to see how others have been assisted.

Listen into next week's show http://blogtalkradio.com/lisa-shah as Suzie Cheel , the "abundance Queen" and I discuss how we can embrace the emotions of change and Suzie's book "Emergings" on the topic.

Be Blessed! 
Lisa

Make the fault the feature Pt2

hey guys...there are two more instalments for this content...that compliment the written blog.

Hope you enjoy them!

p.s. don't get blase now, will you!?

Lisa

Make the fault the feature

Make the Fault the Feature.
The Only Certainty in Life is Uncertainty.
CHANGE is the one ongoing constant.
So how is it possible to ever FEEL secure? IS it possible?
It is indeed!

Controlling Chaos
Creativity is about being able to flow with change in a productive, even proactive, way. Rather than being a ‘victim’ of uncertainty, it is entirely possible, and I believe even intended, that we become INSTIGATORS of our own evolution.
When a person has practiced approaching life from the creative perspective, change becomes an adventure, simply because it becomes an opportunity to explore new frontiers, whether in relationships, family or business.
The fascinating ‘game’ of exploration and discovery takes hold of our minds.
Earl Nightingale says “...our part is to look with new eyes, the eyes of creation...and become ‘Collaborators in Creation’...”

When you are a conscious contributor in being the agent of change, you will immediately feel more positively toward it. Being willing and open to accept that responsibility is the first step.
But how does creativity bring us to this place of confidence in crisis?

Everything is Ever Evolving & the "Picasso Principle"

Since everything is energy and life is ever growing, the greatest resistance anyone can have to a fulfilling life or business, is to want to stay as they are! We cannot stop the flow of change. NEVER! What we can do is learn how to ride the tides...and this, my friend, we can master!

The skills that ‘playing with creativity’ hones and develops are those that embrace and initiate change. Learning how to objectively see a situation or ‘problem’ from multiple perspectives will allow several, even countless , potential solutions to emerge in your thinking.( I refer to this practice as the “Picasso Principle”, because Pablo Picasso, in his early Cubism work, presented flat versions of 3D images through multi facetted pieces placed adjacent to each other.)

Our friend Earl Nightingale, calls this perspective “Intelligent Objectivity”, and I also call it ‘Detached Observation’. It is about removing yourself from the centre of something and viewing it from without, turning it around and considering all the elements from various viewpoints.

In DECONSTRUCTING something this way, we become aware of ‘hidden information’, and this stimulates new ideas-especially when rearranged into new positions.

Make the Fault the Feature

When crisis dictates change, it helps to view the closing cycles as being transformed, rather than ‘ending’ or ‘dying’. When loss is our focus, it’s hard to see the present, let alone potential, gains...and there are ALWAYS gains. Change doesn’t have to come through calamity, either. New life brings about as much ‘shaking’. Just ask anyone who has had their first baby!

And this is a valid point: personally, I have taken the practice of viewing the cycles of life from this positive perspective that even when something I have so thoroughly enjoyed begins to ebb, I have no fear or regret. I know I have exploited as much opportunity to experience it and grow as I could. I am FULL of gratitude for it, and even if I may miss that old ‘way’ or ‘form’, I am SO excited at what is coming forth, that no sense of diminishing dampens my outlook.

I have literally trained myself to see ‘ends’ as beginnings. What could have been considered a ‘bad’ thing...or a fault (because I didn’t want to ‘let it go’), has become the shining feature, whose benefit brings excitement , adventure and more fulfilment. Through this attitude, I’ve entered joyfully into the flow of change, and this entry came as a result of being able to view things differently, through the “eyes of Creation”.

Habituate to Habitate-the Cure for Instability

I have been practicing Creative Thinking Technology (CTT) long before I ever packaged it and gave it that name. These thinking processes and practices are well and truly part of my wiring, and I know they are responsible for all the GOOD is see everywhere in my life-because I choose HOW I see.

From birth, one trauma after another, one enormous shift after another, one environment after another and even one tragedy after another, created the perfect place for me to learn and master these skills. I feel like an expert in transition. A shape shifter. Now, I’d go as far as saying I’m addicted to the rush of growing through change. Stagnation is something I heard of once, and no more!

Things like CTT can be used in one-off situations with purposeful intent to generate results, but it’s no substitute to a life of Intentional Design. Obepro provides a perfect ‘playing field’ to get creative, with its innovative approach to home business. To make the most of such a cutting edge opportunity, hone those cutting edge skills to wield this fantastic tool. The staples of good business building are in your hands, but the way you build can be as fresh as each sunrise. Being Creative will help you ‘think on feet’ in any contingency and bring you to a whole new depth of personal assurance. AND its FUN!!

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